Change Your
Dating Reality
by: David LeVine
I want to share with you the
key to finding the Right One and getting
married the quickest way possible --
guaranteed.
It's not hard, doesn't cost
any money, and takes only about one minute a
day. You already have all the tools you need
to make it happen, you just need to apply
this for one minute every day.
What will guarantee that you
find the Right One and get married the
quickest way possible? A key ingredient is
to believe in yourself, and I am going to
show you why it works, and how to do it the
right way.
The word "manifest" means to
turn a thought into a thing. Everything you
see around you -- cars, houses, the table, a
pen -- were all once thoughts that someone
turned into a real object. When you manifest
something, you make it appear in the real
world. Now as a single person, you have an
idea that you want to get married, and what
you want to do is manifest that idea into
reality, to be standing under the marriage
canopy.
A key underlying force that
allows you to manifest an idea into reality
is to believe you can do it. We can all
relate to times where the situation looked
bad, but through sheer will and
determination people beat insurmountable
odds.
Consider a life-and-death
scenario of being out in the wilderness
alone. Gordon Smith, an instructor who spent
26 years in the U.S. Army's Special Forces,
says: "If you have a guy with all the
survival training in the world who has a
negative attitude, and a guy who doesn't
have a clue but has a positive attitude, I
guarantee you that the one with the positive
attitude is coming out of the woods alive.
Simple as that."
http://www.fastcompany.com/magazine/69/fighttosurvive.html
This heightened motivation
of people in dire situations appears to be
the force that gets them through. But that's
not the whole story. The amazing thing is
what happens behind the scenes, the real
secret to success. There is a stronger
metaphysical component at work here.
Remember the Six Day War and
the Yom Kippur War? The tiny State of Israel
was surrounded by hostile Arab countries
numbering over 200 million people. What
happened? The Arab countries should have
wiped Israel off the map in short order.
Instead, Israel beat them all. Miracle!
We call it a miracle when we
see a dramatic change in reality. In those
wars we see an obvious change of reality --
how God changed a pending defeat into
complete victory.
On a smaller scale, you can
use the same principle to guarantee that you
will get married quickly. Let's explain:
When you believe in
something, the sheer force of your will can
give God reason to support your goal. Based
on your belief, God actually changes reality
to make the thing that you want come about.
For example: You want to get married, and if
you believe with total conviction that you
will find the Right One, then God can take
your will and actually change reality to
cause your soul mate to come to you.
Let's look at the source of
this idea, a story in the Talmud (Taint 8a)
about "The Weasel and the Pit." In the
story, a young man promised to marry a
certain woman. She asked: "Who will be the
witness to this pledge?" The only things in
the area at the time were a pit, and a
weasel walking by. With no other option and
in all sincerity, the young man said that
the weasel and the pit should be the
witnesses.
Time went by, and the young
man forgot his pledge. Then he began
experiencing serious hardships -- each time
involving a weasel or a pit. In the end, he
realized why these things were happening,
and resolved to keep his pledge. He married
the woman, and the misfortunes stopped.
Rabbi Chain Shmulevitz gives
insight on how this works. Obviously, the
weasel and the pit have extremely limited
powers. Yet when the young man initially
designated them to be his witnesses, God
took his sincerity into account and actually
changed the reality to give the weasel and
the pit the ability to uphold the promise.
The same principle is true
for you. If you really believe in something,
God may change reality so that it comes
about.
However, this powerful idea
is a double-edged sword. Just as it can work
to your benefit, it can be to your detriment
by bringing about something that is bad for
you. Let's say you meet a really great
person on a date, and decide that you
absolutely, positively must marry this
person.
In reality, though, you may
be temporarily infatuated with this person,
and in fact they are really bad for you --
and marrying them will be a disaster. Yet if
you will it hard enough, and are
over-insistent, it is possible that God will
allow you to marry that wrong person.
That's why, when you are
dating, you should always ask God to help
you marry the "right person" and not any
specific person.
To summarize, there are two
ways you can use this principle positively:
1) Believe in yourself.
If you truly believe that
you will find the Right One and get married,
then God can change the reality to make it
happen.
2) Ask God to bring you the
Right One.
The key here is to ask for
"the Right One," and not "that one."
On a practical level, you
need to make your belief real, by
manifesting this idea -- everyday, once a
day, for one minute.
Here's how to do it:
1) Say out loud: "I am ready
to get married now. I am ready to meet
him/her today. I am committed to being a
giver in the relationship, rather than a
taker."
2) Make one small effort to
find them: Check for the newest members on a
dating website. Call a matchmaker. Signup
for a Speed Dating event. Call a friend and
tell them what you are looking for.
Small, consistent steps is
the key to success. "By the inch it's a
cinch, by the yard it's hard." Meaning, if
you take one small action every day, your
small efforts turn out to be significant
over time. You don't need to work hard, just
be consistent.
The more consistent you are,
the more you reinforce your belief. By
saying positive statements and making small
efforts, you send a bigger message to God,
who can make it happen.
One of my mom's favorite
sayings is, "Think big, be big." And it is
very true.
"Think marriage, get
married."
